In The Shadows

As I was working on the latest photos of our nearly finished look the song below came to mind for a suitable title for one of those photos. The song reminded me that I’ve kept David sort of in the shadows for several reasons, main one being that for me he was strictly speaking a customer.

However, after several English lessons, immersion experiences and hired photoshoot projects it was impossible not to become friends when it was obvious we had plenty of things in common.

Some people in life seem to only want to drain you off energy but there are others that are just a breath of fresh air, like angels on earth that seem to just have the purpose of making your life easier, lighter, better or simply more magical. They barely make a fuss about anything, they take suggestions in, they work on whatever they feel they need to work on to continue to grow on a personal leel and with them things are always easy and possible thanks to their fearless and resolute attitude to life. 

In fact, perhaps I’ve kept him in the shadows for so long because it’s hard to believe such emotionally mature thoughtful confident and resolute kind of man does actually exist. I was told time and time again perhaps I was asking for too much or simply didn’t exist.

I’m glad though I am so wild that I create my own reality instead of listening to other people’s limiting beliefs. And unlike in the song below, I just don’t wait and wish for wonders. I create them myself whenever I feel I need one. In fact, it’s thanks to his wild attitude approach to life that some of my business dreams come true. Well, or thanks to myself, as, like I said, I create my own wonders when I need them. And you can create your own life wonders too but it takes some time and resourceful investment and some stepping out of your current comfort zone. 

And … of course, that’s what my WILD attitude is all about. It takes effort to actually pay attention to how you’re living your life in the here and now. Most people go through life as mere spectators of their own lives thinking they have no say whatsoever in how their lives are going to unfold. But for those wild ones out there… their life is happening here and now, not tomorrow, not later, not next week. So they literally can’t wait to enjoy what they truly enjoy the most.

And no, I wasn’t interested in creating a wonder in the sense of a boyfriend or a future husband because even before I moved out and divorced I had decided I would be single, wild and free for a looooooooong time. I have a business and a family to raise on my own and I aim to lead by example. But he’s definitely one of those men I got inspired by to define the traits of a man should have in order to get a wild woman or a wild queen’s positive time and attention.

That’s how I live my life. I believe in magic… so I get it. David is an example of an ideal customer and friend I once had. He came at a time where I was only going to make time for confident potential customers willing to try out whatever I had. And so he did. From my paid wild photo sessions to my image coach styling.  

By the way, the song is not even his style of music… but I always liked it and if you like the mood of it, it’s part of my happy alternative tunes playlist you can listen to for free to cheer up the remainder of your quarantine days.

Now…I also wanted to post the latest results of our multiple shopping sprees to complete his desired look.

I believe your personal taste in music as well as many other passions you may have tells a lot about a person, if you manage to express all that in the way you look, then you have found your personal style.

Sadly enough, most people don’t have it, they just wear clothes. And they look as average as the next person. They are not being authentic or true to who they are or what they like. They just wear clothes. And ohh it makes such a difference in the quality of life or even in your confidence to wear and embrace your uniqueness and your weirdness inside out. It means you’re not afraid of who you really are. You are just being your unapologetic self.

You will need to quickly listen to those three links below to gauge whether I nailed to capture and express the essence of his wild and alternative nature properly. And his taste in music is way darker, deeper and more alternative than the song I shared above. 

Because personal style is saying a lot about you without actually saying a word yourself.

And first time I met David he was wearing normal blue jeans and a not very personalized jumper (it was a gift) and a jacket that didn’t do much for his style or overall potential appeareance. In fact I would have never guessed he was into alternative and dark music at all if it weren’t because he told me so himself.

See the way you dress or you look will say things about you. He could tell for my piercings and dressing style I liked somewhat alternative music. And that alone can draw people nearer to you and create conversation topics which can lead to other conversation topics. I met millions of friends that way. And you instantly repel those you have hardly anything in common with just by your looks. And that’s the way we authentic people want it. We have no time to waste on half assed efforts with half assed people.

So here… it is; veredict time.

Does his new style suit him?

Did you think I did a good job at capturing his essence?

He identifies with Heathcliff of Wuthering Heights. I think I managed to capture the mood ;D

I’m going to post all the ones that highlight his new wardrobe items… even if they’re from a previous photoshoot.

His choice in his new car I must say was heavily influenced by me too.

Obviously this of building a new wardrobe it’s an ongoing process, reason why we actually had time to get to know each other and become friends. As even if your wallet could afford it I doubt we’d be able to find a full wardrobe in one day. At least one you would feel comfortable wearing. But still.. you need to get used to wearing some items at a time. Otherwise it would feel like you’re wearing a disguise costume.

And that’s how I got the chance to enjoy David’s company, as a single mum of two and focused on my business goals I really make no time to date men at all just for the sake of finding a man. But he definitely earned a spot on my agenda hiring me for multiple projects.

He looks so much like a model these days that I feel I should pay him to pose for me with the complete style finished. But that was the experience he invested in. Now he’s out there turning heads and driving plenty of women crazier about him than they already were.  

Actually… We haven’t taken many pictures yet of his more polished look for going out to weddings, posh events or taking women out for dinner.

But certainly we have also stretched my image coach skills from clothing to cars. This came more as a friend

Some people in life seem to only want to drain you off energy but there are others that are just a breath of fresh air, like angels on earth that seem to just have the purpose of making your life easier, lighter, better or simply more magical. They barely make a fuss about anything, they take suggestions in, they work on whatever they feel they need to work on to continue to grow on a personal leel and with them things are always easy and possible thanks to their fearless and resolute attitude to life. No wonder I’ve kept him in the shadows for so long. ;D

And … of course, that’s what my WILD attitude is all about. It takes effort to actually pay attention to how you’re living your life in the here and now. Most people go through life as mere spectators of their own lives thinking they have no say whatsoever in how their lives are going to unfold. But for those wild ones out there… their life is happening here and now, not tomorrow, not later, not next week. So they literally can’t wait to enjoy what they truly enjoy the most.

That’s how I live my life. I believe in magic… so I get it. David is an example of an ideal customer and friend I once had. He came at a time where I was only going to make time for confident potential clients willing to try my image coach service or wild photo sessions.

So, as a customer, not only he keeps hiring my services on a regular basis and is keeping me active on business (among many other reliable but not so regular customers) but he also helps me stretch out my skills and due to his caring nature and an adventurous spirit as wild as mine I upgraded last year from shopping assistant to car style assistant!! ;D

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He said he was initially going for something like a Citroen C4. He saw I wasn’t overly enthusiastic about his choice, but hey, his money his car. So I didn’t want to influence his opinion on what car to get, especially when I hadn’t been asked or hired for that purpose. However it would feel like a total clash if his car didn’t match the new vision we had been working on for himself. But when he asked me to help him narrow down his endless choices I shared my view with him on how the car can speak volumes about himself. Because style is saying who you are without speaking words. You can be as practical as you want or feel as in a hurry as you want to buy something. But it all pays off in the end.

So he quickly forgot about that practical car he initially didn’t have given much thought into…. and he soon started narrowing his choices that lead him to the Toyota corolla sedan. I guess choosing a car that really complements your style makes people really say “wow” when they first see it. Unlike his old C2 which was chosen without much consideration and basically to drive him from A to B. Now, a year later he still feels delighted to get into his car.

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I think he’s super proud of how people can’t help to be reminded of the Knight Rider everytime they see him in his new car XD. Even by those who have seen him driving his old white C2, they quickly picked up on that new vibe and they also told him how he reminds them of him. Even his working colleagues and female colleagues couldn’t help but to notice and mention how cool his new car looked like.

Perhaps I just have great taste in cars…. too. Haha

But yes, definitely the car completes and complements his current and hopefully more definite sense of style.

How do you know your car matches your style? I guess people can’t stop commenting on how good it looks, it’s like you make them say “WOW” :D. A car that goes well with his alternative style as much as it goes well when he wants to dress high to go out on a date.

 

 

Extremely lucky shall be the girl who gets his attentions as he is truly a 21st century Knight in kind of recent shining armour.

Needless to say it’s impossible not to feel flattered that I get to enjoy his company from time to time. I love being hired to do photoshoots for him or to help him polish his English fluency skills with some lessons or summer intensive immersions as the one he will be having very soon.

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