Or a diva, a witch, a whore, all at once, or perhaps none at all.
Ruining a good woman’s reputation it’s just as easy as to say “oh yes, I had sex with her once, it was………….. ” or “I’ve heard that she…. “.
IT’S THAT SIMPLE.
And who will care once it’s been said? Hardly anyone, but that idea of you doing this or that may stick in the minds of a lot of simple and average people for good.
How can you stop any resented men from saying that? You can’t.
How do you stop any jealous females from creating lies and talking trash behind your back? You can’t.
How can you prove that’s not true? you can’t EITHER!.
So what can you do about it? YOU CAN OWN IT and let them keep talking….. It’s all GOSSIP.
Because nevermind with how much integrity you behave or how kind you are, and all the good intentions that you always have and the amazing moral values you embody, the truth is;
Any determined successful bold beautiful and confident woman out there these days is labelled a bitch, a slut, a whore or a diva just for going to the beat of her own drum.
So if daring enough to stand out with my clothes or my words, stand my ground and achieve whatever I want to achieve out of life makes me a “bitch”, then I’m a hell of a bitch for sure. ;D
So we might as well embrace it and make ourselves a playlist with all the tunes that celebrate the awesome wild spirited women we are. ;D
Although it’s actually hard out here for women… but try listening to the songs and try to walk in our shoes before you label us that way.
Men don’t get any shade at all for daring to go and get what they want.
For me, real bitches would be the women who behave like Miranda Priestly or the jealous and resentful women who create rumours in attempts to dim the light of these wildly independent women who follow no social rules and that will always outshine them with their good spirited behaviour and consequential healthy glow of having a mind of their own, one they can’t control.
And when it comes to men…
A bitch then is a woman who outsmarts them in one way or another.
This goes from working situations to sentimental ones. From the ladies that prove a man wrong to the ones who dare reject a man’s advances on her.
And if these ladies dare to leave relationships with men because such men no longer meet their relationships standards. Oh well, then you go from being the best thing that ever happened to them to the biggest whore in the world ever. Simply amazing. Comes to show all the love they had for you, honestly.
This label even falls on women just because insecure men instantly classify these women as “out of their league” and therefore feel instantly rejected by them without even daring to step up their game. It’s definitely much easier calling them a “bitch” than actually working to earn the company of a woman they alone deem superior to them in one way or another. And this woman might be totally oblivious to this fact but she gets the bad rep regardless.
Bea Miller made it clear in the song below. You can read how she got inspired to write this song in this amazing speech, and she’s right all along.
So yes, if you think I’m a bitch because I get hired to do my job by male customers or because I look better and attract better men than you do or because you tried and didn’t succeed at it. So be it. I guess you just have to get it out of your chest.
I was apparently labelled a DIVA according to a female friend who told me some guys knew me as such in my nightclubbing scene and I got shocked. Not sure whether it was true or whether she made it up to see my reaction as she stopped being the same person I once knew around that time. But it shocked me that I was apparently being perceived that way.
I would say nothing wrong with being a diva, it sort of describes all the amazing ladies that I’m talking about that get the bad rep just for being awesome.
Still I get the feeling they meant by that that I was sort of thinking too high of myself or I was sort of conceited, but it shocked me because at that time I was still quite not confident about my looks and if I caused that impression is because I used to think I was invisible for years so when I went out clubbing I just went to enjoy being with my friends. And well, I won’t deny the fact that I’m a bit too picky with who I choose to entertain but it actually took me many more years to find out I was actually quite intimidating to guys I found intimating myself, ironically enough.
So… oh well. Here is another song to celebrate it.
I’m glad other popular artists have also tried to address this issue of insecure women and men creating rumours about them throwing light to this harsh reality most women have to face daily.
Sadly, they definitely didn’t find the ways to describe the woman without being disrespectful. But at least they made the point that rumours are only created by people who want them or wanna be like them. And hopefully everyone takes the same intelligent approach of not believing such rumours.
Every now and then I get shocked when I talk with some guys that had met me from like 20 years ago or so and they confess that they think of me as being “a baddie”. “me? a bad girl?”… I wonder which rumours someone must have spread about me back then. But OMG… I love that I give that impression, trust me, better to be perceived as worse than being perceived as the stupidly naive person I was, but I swear I am nothing of that kind. I mean, I can result that to men who romantically get involved with me and realize they can’t trap me or manipulate me like they were planning to. But I definitely don’t go hurting people on purpose unless they tried to hurt me first. And in the past, I may have retaliated, but these days I just go my own way and let Karma deal with it.
And so I resolved to live my life my way and to hell with what other people would think of me because of it. I thought… damned if you do, damned if you don’t. What do I need a good reputation for? is not like I’m gonna have to depend on a man to marry me. And if enjoying life my way makes me a bad girl… well, then perhaps I am. 😛
And let’s also hail all those W.H.O.R.E.S – (Women Honoring One Another Rising Eternally). The term that inspired Maria Brink in the song below. A great song that talks about this double standard and moral we have going on in the world today.
What a strange contradiction. Wild women understand it’s men who made us these bloody cheeky, enticing, tempting sexy creatures in their minds in the first place. They like women being like that, why else porn and erotic magazines could be so popular among guys otherwise? It’s all about their fantasies about women and how they want them to be; more open, more sexual, and more straight forward. And then there are a lot of sick men that in order to satisfy their sick sexual fantasies have been able to rape even little innocent girls who trusted them because they were either relatives or family friends.
Either way, wild women are proud these days of their active sexual lives and perhaps that’s what makes them so attractive to men, it’s like some men can see their sensuality radiating through their pores. Perhaps as an unfortunate consequence of the above paragraph or perhaps because they were already born too sexual and tempting to the male species, most wild women probably spent most of their lives trying to deal with this sexual power they had and finding ways to control it. But once all that sexual energy is honed and mastered they are not afraid to flaunt it whenever they see fit.
Luckily if these women managed to survive any of those sad or unfair situations above like Maria Brink did there is NO stopping such women ever again. The ones I know are the most accomplished, loving and drama free women I know.
Yet, according to society to be a good woman and a decent good wife, then the experience of your vagina has to be as near to non-existent as possible.
Sadly, most men want a prude woman to introduce to their mums and a fucking porn star under the bedsheets. I’m not sure where did those men lose all sense of logical thinking but I shall remind you all that mastering any kind of skill takes hours of practice at it.
So I guess that’s why many men who married inexperienced women led by this way of thinking – that the less use of her vagina the better – are probably the exact same men that later go to real sex workers to get the pleasure they once hoped their prude inexperienced wife would provide for them at home somehow without any previous experience at it.
There is definitely no way to win this double moral standard when it comes to a woman’s honour, eligibility, and reputation overall.
Even some exes feel compelled to whore shame you after you broke up or divorced them. Like you’re all worthy of love and devotion whilst you’re still theirs but the moment you decide to break up and they realize you’re moving on…. then that instantly turns women into whores.
Hello?
See… most men love a wild free and independent woman until they realize they can’t tame them or control them. So I guess whore shaming them is the only way they have to get it off their chest that they’ve lost such an amazing woman forever.
And if you happen to be a self-employed woman and you have male clients that are physically attractive, then oh well, you’re a fucking whore for sure, like you should charge them a hell of a lot more for your “services”.
They immediately assume these male clients of your decent business are getting the full package out of you. But even if these male clients were getting reciprocity of feelings from, why do they think we should charge them for that?
And if you happen to be intelligent enough to make such situations work towards achieving your priorities in the most profitable way possible then you instantly turn yourself into the baddest bitch of them all.
Ok then, then I’m the baddest.
She mentions in the song taking Adderall, that’s a popular brand of amphetamines used to treat Attention Deficit Disorder which I also happen to take and which is popular for causing sleeplessness.
The same happens here for women who are successful and popular, they all assume they must have had sex with someone powerful for that to happen. Like she couldn’t have possibly made it because she’s talented.
If we happen to call the attention of someone popular then it’s because we’re pretty. Not because we’re worth it. Could it not be that they find us super interesting? And then if relationship doesn’t work… then they may describe you as an evil manipulative person that is able to lure someone into doing things they would normally not do for other women. That’s love, but they prefer to call it evil.
So… yes, perhaps I’m a bitch and a boss and much to their dispair I will also shine like gloss… ;D. And like she says “Boo don’t be mad cause you had a chance”.
So why do all men feel like slut shaming women?
Well, let’s put it this way, the bigger the number of sexual partners a woman has had the less likely she is to put up with bad sex or to put up with THEIR DELICATE SEXUAL EGOS.
Why? think about it. The fewer partners you have had in the past the less he has to do to impress and please you in the bedroom. EASY!!
Those who are not lazy and lame won’t care how many sexual partners you had because they’re confident they’ve done their homework and researched how to please a woman and are willing to learn and do whatever it takes to find ways to please them. They learned to love that challenge and have figured out that each woman is different and it’s ok not to get it right on the first, second, or third attempt at it.
Because by the way, apparently we women don’t like or enjoy sex or so they say. But if we show that contrary to popular belief we are actually very sexual beings then the entire world gets shocked.
My condolences go to all those women (and men) who got and will get shocked and even offended by the lyrics in the song below. You can tell by their reactions on youtube how boring and unfulfilling their sexual lives must be if they get offended by the lyrics of this song.
But also how sick and twisted the world is. Because some people go to church trying to be holy and spiritually advanced and yet even their spiritual leaders are raping children.
But the majority of people get more shocked by women talking “dirty” in a song. But men go singing things like these and that’s apparently ok.
I’m not saying all women have to look as sexually provocative as the women do in the video but I’m kind of sure that if more women embraced their genuine wild side and stopped believing that the use of their vagina has ANYTHING TO DO with their worth as a woman then perhaps the world would be a much better place.
Then women could be free to explore without being judged for it which would benefit most men who try to get them to have sex with them from the first date unsuccessfully because most women won’t do dare entertain sex on the first dates because they know they’d be judged and shamed if they did.
If men stopped slut shaming women and actually made their marital choices based on all components of a relationship (including sex chemistry), women will be more pleasing and more accommodating to their husbands sexual needs once they find out which those are and if they’re happy to please such needs. That way these husbands wouldn’t need to go to a professional sex worker to have their sexual needs met. That way they wouldn’t stay married and unsatisfied with each other and therefore resenting all the kids that come from such an unhappy union and abusing them in multiple ways which later translates into traumatized or depressed individuals thrown out in the world.
There is no guarantee sexual satisfaction would keep a marriage together but for sure it can improve it if both partners are satisfied in this basic human need for intimacy we all have.
If men opened their minds to this concept that the value of a woman doesn’t depend on the use they give to their vaginas even gang rape may even cease to exist.
By the way, the whole concept of gang-raping mystifies me. According to their beliefs, they should be incapable of penetrating the same woman as other men have because that disgusts them enough to go kill them due to a lack of honour yet they go sticking their penises one after another one on the same vagina? Weird.
And by the way this is not against men, not against marriage before sex.
Please get my most sincere congratulations if you are married to your first sweetheart ever and you’re as in love and a thousand times more satisfied than you were on day one. Because most women don’t get that lucky.
And even so you might have got slut shamed even just for the fact of having tattoos on your skin. So let’s just embrace it and take their power away.
More songs for it below.
Let them know…
Do you know of any other songs where they start taking this term as positive? Let me know in the comment section below!!
I don’t know about you… but I am just what I wanna be. “Nice to meet you”.
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