Here I am, single again at age 37 and really enjoying every bit of it….

Yes… Single and enjoying it. Single and wanting to be single for a loooong time.

How is it possible? Most fellow women hate it. But I do love to feel wild and free and I guess I thoroughly enjoy having alone time.

And if you’re one of those who would like to learn how to enjoy and embrace being single you’ll soon discover how hard it is to actually stay single for long.

Why?

Apparently there is nothing more attractive to men than women enjoying their lives doing their own thing.

Mind you, only works when you truly enjoy being single and it’s genuine.

How do men know it’s actually coming from a genuine feeling… well, mainly because you refuse plans with them or ignore their text messages. It’s got to be felt in the way you let many opportunities and relationships go because you know they’re going to get in the way of all your other goals that you fancy working on instead.

But if you’re a woman struggling to find a man or a relationship, the trick to get one is actually to enjoy being single so much so that you no longer want a partner at all.

Being single is not a curse or a disgrace if it’s your choice to be single.

Remember you might want to be single to become emotionally and financically independent. Or you may want to be single because you haven’t met anyone who meets your high standards. Either way, it’s your choice to be single. Your goal should be not needing a man at all, so you can have better and more balanced relationships when those men worth having will come along on their own.

Complete yourself first, be all that you wish to find in a relationship on your own. That way you will always be ready to walk away from any potential relationship that doesn’t make you feel good, doesn’t allow you to be yourself or isn’t really going in the direction you want it to go.

One of the benefits of being single is going out with your girls knowing you’re not bothered about getting the attention of men. You may end up getting even more male attention this way, it’s as if they could smell your attitude.

Whilst being married or in any kind of relationship I’m super faithful and I don’t entertain men chatting me at all. But if the man in my life has been acting dodgy or has been taking me for granted lately, oh well, I may definitely entertain some flirtatious banter to keep my options open, just in case :P.

But honestly, most times I’ve gone outt clubbing, even when I’ve been single, I’ve gone out just to give my all on the dancefloor. I know how to keep me satisfied so I don’t need to go chasing men for that either.

But now that I’m single again… when I go out I feel like in the song below….

So yes, I’m a limited edition, too many women all rolled into one, an army of them, from my non-judgamental ways to my positive self-generated positive energy, from my dark wits to my daring looks, from my goofy moods to my sexy moves. And if men don’t find that appealing, not my problem. I do not exist to be liked or accepted by them. But funnily enough quite a lot of them do like me this way.

If I entertain a man that guy has to initiate conversation, pursue me, invite me out, and what not. I have always been picky, that of labelling me intimidating and a diva doesn’t come out of nowhere. But now my standards have been raised even higher.

And if you’re 100% single and listening to these songs and feeling their song vibes and starting to feel as powerful as they do (or as least as they make me feel and I hope it’s the same for you) people will pick on that vibe whilst you have fun talking with friends, giving your best shot at the dance floor whilst you notice all those eyes trying to make a two second connection with your eyes to come and approach you and you’ll just want to avoid them all because you will be more into have fun with your friends and let your body rock to the beat of the music than to actually entertain any guy’s conversation.

But if you’re not there yet, don’t worry we’re here to help. Let’s begin with a super empowering song from sister to sister.

I haven’t felt low in a long time. Not even during my divorce. But my low was once so low I try not to forget it because it made me the bulletproof woman I am today. And if I did overcome my lowest, so can you.

And once you got up from the floor….

Remember, we’re not done yet, we’re not completed yet. We should always be working on our next masterpiece, be that a career goal, a personal goal, or a lifestyle goal. Our lives are our own masterpiece. So remember… you’re probably a work of art already, but you can always improve your game, raise your standards, and so on.

And now… let’s get ready for the night out.

I don’t know about you but I definitely have that poison and power and I release it whenever I fancy. So if I fancy getting a new lover… I’ll abuse it. ;D

So after a shower, now it’s time to look in the mirror whilst you choose your sexiest or most beautiful and flattering underwear, I know… you’re only going to meet with your girl friends with no plans of taking anyone home, but it doesn’t harm wearing something sexy as hell underneath.

That way you’ll feel ready for whatever comes your way and that makes you show up twice as confident. You deserve to feel and look sexy just for yourself. Why would you wear your nicest underwear for a man and not for yourself? You should want to look and feel sexy just for yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY.

I have been fitter and I’ve been fatter, but either way I have always loved my curves. So waking up like Meghan Trainor sings she does on the song below feels awesome. And yes, even when I was at my chubbiest I still attractted men just the same, you know when they can’t keep their hands off you, when they turn their heads and can’t help but compliment you on the street. Yeps, that’s me whenever I leave the house.

Unlike her, I don’t thank God, I only have myself to thank for working so hard on becoming the person I always wanted to be. And so far I have all I ever wanted. And sometimes even more than I ever dreamed of!!.

I’m an extremely lucky girl if you wish to think so. Or perhaps I have an extremely powerful mind and I achieve whatever I want with it and I make it look effortless. And that’s something that not many people seem to have or do these days.

And well, from there… I would recommend something like the song below to do your make-up and feel awesome whilst doing so. Oh yeah, feel it… if a man that is not your type comes by, make no allowances, only entertain those who meet your standards. You’re an amazing woman act like one. Set your goals high, realize your value and set your standards even higher. 

Now let’s go, listen to the song below whilst you get all the stuff in your bag. Don’t forget your purse, your mobile phone, perfume on, and some perfume to carry along just in case you feel like it has abandoned you half way through the night. Now it’s time to leave home…

And if they play any of your favourite songs I hope you too become that kind of show girl who is not afraid to call the shots…because that would mean you’re confident enough to express yourself on the dancefloor, or on top of the bar or on top of tables, and actually enjoy it. And when you are fearless out and about clubbing, well, let’s say going out it’s twice as fun!! 🙂

 

Another song that I love to put me in a positive and confident mood is this one from Kazaky. Really makes me want to dance like mad… but also.. love the super confident message of the song… it’s like… “hey, I know you want me”. I know from experience that attitude definitely works. I also know the opposite sadly does work too. So choose the first one.

And here one for the girls that do dare on the tables or bars like I did with my friends back in the day! ;D

If I dance I usually end up with some eyes on me as in the song below. I won’t say all, but I can quite confidently claim that sometimes most have been on me. Even women came to ask me if I was getting paid to dance as a go-go. A friend and I used to always dance in podiums so guys would have it harder to start trying to talk to us whilst we were just enjoying ourselves on the dance floor.

And yes… with all these tunes that celebrate all the fun single women have whilst out and about I know it’s very likely someone will try to talk to me.

They have to be very brave though, as wild women like me intimidate most men… but if they dared…. conversation could be fun and likely to be of the nature as the song below. ;D

 

I’m not planning to take anyone home with me tonight, but if I were…. oh well, this would also apply. Let’s be clear under the sheets, if you aren’t clear in advance of what you like and how it will go, chances are it will not go to your taste. I mean, you can always let them surprise you positively first, but if things don’t go according to plan, fear not to ask for what you want. Most men find that incredibly sexy. Try to figure it out before taking them home, though.

Even when you go just to have fun with the girls, if the music is good and sensual it would be literally impossible to dance without resulting provocative to guys nearby. So they will try to interrupt you and tempt you. Try to avoid them if you can… but it’s hard sometimes to resist a man that is handsome, chivalrous and all openly into you.

 

And if someone happens to be looking at me when I’m doing my hips moves and we lock eyes… bang bang there goes their heart. You ought to try this. Dancing sensually and looking straight into their eyes it has a powerful effect.

Hard to believe but it happens. Sometimes even when you don’t look at them they may just come to say “I’ve been looking at you the whole night and you’re fucking beautiful” and leave it at just that. It’s amazing how just a gaze can be so hypnotic or magnetic to men.

And let’s repeat it again, I have an average face…. and that of the gaze worked as well when I was overweight. So regardless of how you look like, make the most of your gaze power.

And not looking for love nor sex right now. But if a guy chooses to entertain me like the one below, it would be extremely hard to resist. Sweet and wild, perfect mixture indeed. ;D

But unless that kind of rare man shows up, I’ll probably be saying this a lot to all those guys who don’t meet my criteria 100%.

Yeps these days I live to enjoy myself, achieve my goals, succeed in my career, make the most of my energy, travelling or having genuine fun.

So I’ll probably be demanding the respect I need and won’t be settling for any less than what I feel I deserve. Even if others don’t think I deserve such. I set my own value and surprisingly enough there are men who are willing to earn my company. And only those who treat me like I deserve may get the best out of me for a while. Once they prove their worth… I may be cool for the summer.

Don’t get me wrong women, this is not a question of being arrogant. When I talk about men not meeting my standards doesn’t mean that such me are below me or not valuable at all. I really have the belief that everyone has great qualities about themselves, knowledge and wisdom to explore, things to talk about or views worth a conversation (or plenty more)

To me it’s just a question of being extremely clear on what I want in the love and relationship department and not having time and energy to invest in anything that doesn’t look remotely like what I would like to find next. And I hope you learn to do exactly the same.

Because you’re worth it. ;P

Promised, the results are totally worth it. Oh that feeling… it’s amazing.

And I’m finally ready to go. ;D

I hope dj blows my mind with their music choice, but chances are they won’t. But who cares? just feeling and vibing with these songs was totally worth the time and will impact my week positively.

If you listened to all the songs above… I hope now you’re feeling much better off that you’re single and free to do whatever you want.

Let’s live high, wild and free.