And wild queens are just like your average queen…. but several shades darker, deeper, hotter and way harder to find and impress. But you’ll know you’re one when a man you’re dating (or not dating) feels compelled to share songs like these with you because these kind of songs reminds them of you. XD

But they’ll also recognize your value straight away and they’ll be willing to do whatever it takes to get anywhere near you.

She is not only the one that turns heads in the clubs due to her original outfits or confidence to rock them out and about. It’s not about her physical beauty either. It’s about her attitude and the way she carries herself.

She’s the one who most times gets her way because she actually dares to ask for it. She is a go getter and a glow getter. ;D

These are the women that once men have worked to earn their trust they will hear things from them like: 

“I’ve never ever done anything like this for any other woman before” (men of 36).

“I’ve always felt inside me that I had the ability to love like this but it’s like nobody else was worth the effort to try it this much” (said a man of 40),

“wow, you wake up feelings in me I didn’t even know I had the ability to feel”. (said by a man of 32)

“It’s got to be you… I’ve never felt like this for anyone else in my entire life” (said by men of 46). 

And yes, they could all be lying just to get what they wanted, but honestly, I don’t think they were, because I wished men that didn’t like me back in the day said anything of that nature but back then I can swear they didn’t until I became the woman I am today.  In fact some didn’t do it then, but they’ve done it recently. 

Also is like they say it almost in shock and some of them even said it when it was already over and they knew they weren’t going to get anything back.  if it was a sudden realization, some texted it, others wrote in physical love letters, etc.

But the most efficient way to know it wasn’t a lie, it’s in their actions. And their actions spoke volumes. Like hardly any man introduces you to their mother in like 3 to 5 months, they have to feel like you’re the one,  some I didn’t even allow them because I wasn’t ready myself to get that involved. Not all their mums tell you “I knew you two got back together, his face radiates joy when he’s with you”. Some friends would say “I saw him the morning after he met you and I’ve never ever seen such a happy fella”. People that see you just tell you: “Gosh, I’ve never seen anyone so in love and affectionate as he’s with you”. Or “he was with her but kind of neglecting her a lot, as if they weren’t even together” and that’s how you know it’s true and that perhaps not every woman knows how to awaken that king they perhaps all have inside of them.

If you’ve heard men or members of their family saying similar things to you, congratulations, that means you’re definitely one of those ladies. Are you one of those ladies? Let me know in the comment section below.

And one would think there are plenty of those women around. I used to think so myself for the sake of humankind. But apparently there aren’t as many as I thought and I guess that explains why the same man that treated another woman like rubbish treats women like me like a queen and never wants to leave me. In fact, I can teach you all I know with real life examples and you can learn how to become one here. Because, of course, this attitude and behaviour it’s something you can grow into but don’t do it to get men, do it because it’s best for yourself.

Because usually a wild woman turns into a wild queen when she chooses to focus on herself and on her dreams and goals above all. She’s the ruler of her life, her house and her reality and won’t allow any man to spoil that freedom and fun for her. And I guess that’s what men find so fascinating about her. She is not like the rest. She basically chases goals and dreams, not men.

In fact, she’s so willing to stay focused on her goals that the moment a man threatens to get her side-tracked of her goals she is more than willing to let that man go or simply make her best to avoid him or block him on social media, especially if such a man is not 100% meeting her high standards and therefore it’s even easier for her to choose to cut him off her life/energy.

However if a true wild king gets in her way and earns the trust of women like me, and that’s hard because most queens just don’t trust men all that easily, then these queens are extremely loyal, committed and authentic while the relationship lasts or until said man starts acting dodgy or until he suddenly no longer meets her standards. And believe me, the moment she realizes he’s not meeting her standards, or the moment the energy is not reciprocated as much, or the moment her feelings for him change, she no longer loves him or she is liking someone else, she will see no point in lying or entertaining that said man further. So you’re safe that she won’t cheat on you. She would rather be single than entertaining men for the sake of having company.

And there aren’t that many men around actually worth a spot in her busy agenda for free. But if you’re a boy or a man trying to get with one of these women, you can learn how to become such a man reading between the lines below or hearing it all straight from the queen’s mouth with some hilarious anecdotes during this week or weekend retreat.

Because wild queens attract wild kings.

Well, to be honest wild queens attract most men without even planning to do so. They are just kind of magnetic.

There is no missing such a woman when she’s out and about, working, clubbing, walking down the street, etc. She literally turns heads and causes silence and admiration by men whenever or wherever she walks in a new room. Even on the old cyber chat rooms where all we had was a white screen she knew how to stood out and she would be noticed and talked to in private chats by plenty of guys trying to call her attention who would notice a certain uniqueness in her writing skills.

So among all these men the most important categories are the real wild kings and the wannabe kings.

The insecure men can also recognize such a woman and might try a shy attempt but they usually feel instantly intimidated and paralysed by these women, as if they themselves felt that this woman was way out of their league so they wouldn’t even dare to make a move or confess their feelings to them. Only once they eventually have access to them accidentally they will realize these women are way more humble, fun and approachable than they get credit for. Unfortunately it takes most insecure men some years to master the strength to do so and find out these ladies aren’t as scary as they paint them to be on their mind these women are usually gone or taken by someone braver than them.

So mostly only the wild kings or wannabe kings will dare to approach them.

How to differenciate a real king from a “wannabe-King”?.  

When one of these women crosses the path of an intelligent and emotionally mature man he can’t help but to notice her and do anything in his power to get her attention, affection, time and appreciation.

A wild king will be giving his best shot right from the start. Money won’t be an issue, distance won’t be an issue, actually nothing will be an issue to spend some time with her as soon as the slightest window of an opportunity for that opens up.

Even if that is going to cost him several hours of driving and an expensive high season last minute fancy hotel room just to get to know her on that same day when they started talking or two weeks after that, and being previously warned there would be no sex at all on that night because her plans were to go home alone. But he does it because he simply enjoys the fact that she’s different.

Oh yes…. that slight opportunity she might have just opened kind of hoping/expecting he would say no to that (like most average lazy men would do) so she would have had an excuse to never talk to him again but he proves her he’s also different from the average man and that he can actually be spontaneous and live in the moment and recognizes a great opportunity when it comes his way.

Some wild kings even come up straight away to her with business opportunities because they’ve done their research on her and found out she is not pretending to be hard to get, she’s actually hard to get for real so they’ve been picking their brains hard thinking of what could possibly offer this woman that she will find hard to refuse.

And it’s hard to explain but in a way these women kind of convey that worth in the way she walks, the way she talks, the way she looks, the way she portrays herself in social media, etc. But overall, it’s as if they vibrated or emanated such energy that makes men feel that could provide them with all the joy, excitement, fun, adventure, mind-blowing experiences and plenty of interesting emotions they’re currently missing out in their daily lives, because let’s be honest, most women are perhaps a little bit too plain in comparison, to manage to keep them interested.

And by the way… she doesn’t even have to advertise her worth. She knows if a man doesn’t put any effort is his loss so she’s confident she’s better off alone. And is perhaps that knowledge and quiet confidence in her assets that make men irresistibly attracted to her and willing to invest and even want to commit to her straight away even when they haven’t committed like that to anyone ever before. They know that with her they have plenty of time off and freedom. In fact they will complain they don’t see these women often enough. But when they see her, it makes it all worth it.

A wannabe king or a time waster would have have found a million excuses not to take that slight opportunity. Period. It’s that simple.

And I can totally understand and get any kind of male complaints of “who does she think she is? I’m not wasting time and money into going to meet someone I barely know online to see what she’s got to offer me. Let her come to me. All I want is sex and I don’t even have that guaranteed with her”.

And that’s great, there are in fact plenty of women making it easy and stress free for men to get it easy like that, I hope such men go and choose among one of those many that are out there and leave me alone without me having to block them in order to convey the fact that I’m not one of those and I didn’t even tried, they came to me, so what do they expect? me to be willing to meet them where they’re at?

I’m sorry but the more bills a woman pays by herself the less attractive men become to her.  

A wild queen is simply focused on other stuff, is not that she thinks no man is worthy of her at all. It’s just that she has other goals and priorities in life. She may even find him hot but she doesn’t need a man so she won’t put any effort towards anything unless he proves to her first that he’s worth some of her time and attention.

And that’s why wild queens get to meet these amazing men who are willing to bet on a gut feeling that she is going to be worth every single penny and second of his time and effort. I even have screenshots of men saying this before and after travelling 16 hours just to meet me and support me on my dreams.

And somehow she attracts these kind of men simply because she refuses to date any less than that. She’s very confident she’s better off alone so she doesn’t fear missing out on any other opportunities that could potentially deviate her from her goals.

When a wanna-be king shows his true colours and makes an easy and effortless approach towards her, even after a while of getting to know her, she will refuse the offer and most likely end the connection right there. He will then most likely get offended and he’ll go find someone easier. And that’s ok by her. She won’t beg for a man to see her worth.

Also she is aware there are no shortage of men who find her attractive and she knows the moment she thinks she’s done because he no longer seems to meet her standards, new offers and men come along, sometimes in question of minutes or days. It’s like she gets instantly rewarded for not settling for less.

Works like magic, men instantly appear out of nowhere and some people would think she is a player and she has them lined up, but she only deals with one man at a time. She doesn’t have time for games. She doesn’t have time to entertain ten different men on her socials, it’s too much work, she doesn’t have the time. Now, I guarantee you, the moment she thinks you’re not meeting her standards or you disappoint her in your behaviour, a new opportunity arises out of nowhere on her facebook messages, on her daily life due to other life events that include men or when she goes out for a cigarrette, etc. And that’s her being almost perennially unavailable.

Kings don’t play games

They want it and they’ll fight to get it. With a real king you will have no doubt you are what he’s ever wanted to meet in a woman right off the bat. Even if they may not say it straight away, their actions will show you how much you mean to them. These guys will definitely know how to push the button.

A wannabe king may try to charm her by being over the top with compliments and expressing what looks like heart-felt feelings for her. They will be direct and will waste no time confessing they find these women attractive but the proof will always be in the pudding. Most men like to promise but most won’t be consistent and follow through with actions. And she will be waiting to see those before she takes any action.

A queen will even doubt actions made. Some actions mean nothing to certain men if they’re used to these women and some may have so much money that perhaps travelling to meet her won’t impact their finances at all. So she will mostly pay attention to behavioural patterns and then decide.

Kings have real confidence….    

Kings have a balanced healthy self-esteem and they respect a woman’s right to decline any invitation or sexual advancement from them.

If she keeps refusing him he won’t feel like she’s playing hard to get. He will realize she is actually hard to get and will respect her. A wild king won’t feel offended or frustrated by this. He’ll act like a gentleman, because that’s what they are.

If anything he may feel intrigued and challenged by it. Especially if he’s used to females falling for him and bending over backwards for a chance with him. He will soon realize she has a purpose, goals and dreams to chase and he will intuitively get he’s simply not one of those goals by the way she turns his offers down. He will keep trying though because he knows she’s turning his offers down doesn’t mean she doesn’t find him attractive or that she doesn’t see his worth. She might just be honouring her goals above all because that’s what she’s set herself to do at that moment in time, and even if he offers her hard to resist plans, she will still be forced to refuse them even if he’s meeting the qualities she’s actually looking for in a man.

“You don’t know me at all but I’m telling you, were you the average girl I would have gone by now, but I know you are it, the kind of woman I’ve been looking for and dreamed about for the last 15 years, so now that I’ve finally found you, don’t you think you’re gonna get away from me all that easily”.

That sounds quite cute after having refused to give him my contact details and his offer to meet up with him to have a coffee the following day. But then again, I wasn’t looking to have men in my life at that point in my life, nevermind how hot and attractive I thought they were. Not even for casual sex at that point in my life, because a queen knows she gets them addicted with her attitude so lovers usually end up wanting to be her boyfriends and even husbands, and that’s why she has to be very very choosy with whom she allows in her life at all. Because what might be ok as a one night stand may not be as good for a life time, and eventually she has to break up with them and end up breaking up their hearts because she just didn’t want a boyfriend or future husband at that time, she just wanted to focus on her business goals.

Therefore were she to entertain any man at that point in time he would have to be way more original than offering her a regular coffee date. And if he doesn’t think outside the box she quicky loses interest.

A wannabe king or player … doesn’t have real confidence.

We know this because when a queen rejects “wannabe king” sexual advances on her she may never hear from him again. He just wanted the easy attention, affection or sex and since she wasn’t up for it now that has hurt his little fake male ego based on women’s interest on him and instead of admitting he hasn’t done enough effort to get her interested he would rather ghost her completely or label her a witch, a bitch, a whore, etc.

See… any wild woman turns herself into a queen when she realizes she needs no man and therefore she can afford to be as picky or as high maintenance and demanding as she wants. But she also knows how to act like she isn’t as soon as she recognizes which type of man she’s dealing with and whether or not he actually has potential to become the one that might actually be worth the pain of her not achieving her goals faster by deviating slightly from them in order to entertain him.

Kings keep queens…  

Even when she’s not interested in having a relationship with anyone that is not meeting 100% her standards and requirements. If a real king shows up meeting at least 97% of her requirements she’s going to feel challenged in her decision to say NO to it.

She will find excuses not to entertain the connection and yet he will keep finding solutions and ways to tempt her so she may end up considering entertaining “something” with him. Because there is only a certain amount of times you can say NO when someone you find interesting and attractive keeps wanting to give you their time and attention. And that’s how they get their attention and then, if they’re consistent at it, that’s exactly how they keep them.

Wannabe Kings…. could put some fake effort and be ok at first pretending to be something they’re actually not but they’ll soon start forgetting their pretend act and their mask will fall off or they will simply disappear.

Only a real king will be able to climb up her high walls and realize she’s actually all fun and easy going once he gets there… and probably among the best women he’s ever met, if not simply the best. Reason why the walls are so high. She just doesn’t want any average Joe to see that side of her, the best of her. But those willing to do above and beyond without any guarantee of success will definitely get to see the best of her… because I guess slow and steady wins the race. Only those will be worth to experience all she’s got to offer.

And most men once they’ve seen all she’s got to offer is rare then they’ll ever want to let her go…. another thing is that they manage to keep her. Because she’s like a butterfly or some kind of unicorn, beautiful to look at but hard to catch.

And that’s all folks!!

If you are a woman and you want to get amazing men like these to come chasing after you… become a wild woman first and you’ll soon turn into a wild queen and you’ll get men like these kings orbiting around even when you don’t want men or relationships at all.

But there are a lot of things that go into being such a woman, women like these have an attitude in life and a set of standards that can’t be faked. They’re genuine women.

If you think you’re already meeting all the Wild Women Do criteria yet you get no amazing men like the one below flying or driving all over to where you are the moment he thinks he may get a slight chance to win you over… then please feel free to get one to one coaching here with me or book that holiday retreat so we can really get you into being one or acting like one.

And yes, kings do exist and they can look as confident, hot and impressive as the one below. Guys take notes. He gives some tips below ;P

You think I’m being unrealistic with my wants and demands? up to you. I’ve had what I truly wanted in a relationship even when my ex husband said I would never get any man to do such things for me. And I got it not even two weeks after I moved out without really hoping to find such a man. But I had the belief that such men could potentially exist but even if they didn’t I would rather be single and so taking such risk that they may not exist is exactly how I got one like that. Two or three men like that by now actually. So really, being alone until they come along doesn’t scare me at all. Settling for less than I want when I know I get what I want does it for sure.

But trust me, such men do exist, perhaps there is a man like that hidden inside most men… but perhaps it needs a wild queen to awaken such efforts and purpuseful actions just to be with you.

There is an antropologist who has 11 books written on the subject of human behaviour and has totally mentioned most of the traits I list above as the traits that make people exceptional. Ohh and funnily enough most of those traits we can observe them as they show in non-verbal ways. And is actually kind of cool I already arrived to that conclusion above all by myself on my early thirties with not as much field research on the subject as these experts have gathered.

Most people are average and put an average effort into everything they do. I’m definitely sick and tired of average people and average efforts. I only entertain exceptional efforts or none at all.

And these days because I got used to exceptional efforts so much I even wonder what else does a man need to do to get any of my love or devotion these days? I no longer know myself. But at least I know what it takes some men to get me interested enough.

Be exceptional, look out for exceptional and you’ll find it. From friends to love relationships.