It’s been years that I’ve been using music with a purpose. As it’s one of the best ways to get in the mood and feeling whatever you want to experience and achieve. Basically with music I made most of my dreams come true.
Because music has the power to uplift your mood, make you dance your pain away, help you take fearless decisions or simply make sense of your own story and befriend your own demons so nothing holds you back anymore.
“Each one of us is two separate beings, there is the one that we show to the world at large and then there is the inner…truth?”. Well, this is not applicable to those who have found their wild side and embraced it. I know I can be the most adorable and caring woman in the world but I can also be the coldest baddest bitch out there if they dare treat me wrong.
By the way that was me before going to a festival in Lahr (Germany). My Erasmus friends didn’t like the same music I did and unlike most people I chose not to let fear of the unknown stop me from making it into that music festival and therefore I decided to go all on my own (well, trusting new people I barely knew to get there and back safely though ;D) . After all it wasn’t the first time I had done something adventurous like that and it wasn’t going to be the last time either. Because once you face such fears you become unstoppable in the amount of things you can do.
I can’t really tell if I was sort of born with the fearless gene but it took years to activate itself or whether I was forced to develop it and the music I chose to listen to the most helped me become the sick individual I’m today. Either way from a young age I started wowing people with the things I was not afraid to say and do.
I certainly used a good mixture of the happiest dancing tunes ever to keep me positive combined with the harsh techno and most aggressive music there was available in the market at that time to deal with life growing pains. I recall my brother often asking me “is it even possible to listen to uglier music?” (He was talking about Rammstein and I was 14 then). Later I discovered and loved uglier and darker music. And I’ve also danced myself off ad-lib from this to this. Because I suck at remembering choreographies but I’ve spent a whole life improvising :D.
I definitely needed Rammstein, Marilyn Manson and many other alternative artists in my early teens to deal with all the verbal abuse I was getting in and out of school ever since I was 11 (which only got worse by age 14 and lasted all the way till age 17).
And why was I being bullied for? Oh I guess when you’re a threat you’re always the target. I wish I had known back then this was the real issue at hand. Little did I know me minding my own business and being unapologetically myself had the power to stir people’s insecure demons. But nobody told me that back then, so I had absolutely no idea at that time and I believed what they said about me being ugly, a disaster, and all sorts. And I spent some years like a total zombie trying to figure out why people needed to be mean to me just for the sake of it because in my mind I didn’t even know what envy or jealousy was or how it made other people feel and I was confident I hadn’t done anything wrong to them other than just me being myself. I felt everyone was ok being themselves like I was until they made me think there was something wrong with being me.
The amount of daily funerals I’ve been holding in my mind from that moment in time onwards is hard to recall. Because, let’s face it, why going to jail for killing all those people who didn’t like me? or why killing myself because nobody seemed to like me enough and even my meant to be friends betrayed me on that? Nah, I decided to stick around and trust karma would do its job and I’ve seen it happen to most of those. And ever since I’ve seen it at work, sometimes almost instantly, and that feels kind of powerful. These days someone treats me unfairly or mean for no reason and they pay dearly and almost instantly for it. 😀
At the time I had not a clue I was undergoing my own music therapy. But definitely it worked like a charm. Because contrary to popular belief, research has found that loud and chaotic music such as punk and heavy metal is ‘a healthy way of processing anger. “Results showed levels of hostility, irritability and stress decreased after this music was introduced, and the most significant change reported was the level of inspiration they felt”.
So it’s a scientifically proven fact that metal heads are actually better adjusted in life and happier than the average person in the room.
Basically, the sooner you learn to deal with the hurt and find a way to release all that pent up anger inside you the faster you’ll learn how to shine even brighter than before.
In fact, music has a way of connecting your body and soul in ways that no other medicine can. In fact this experiment and research shows how even dementia and Alzheimer patients get their spark back when listening to their favourite songs.
The power of the right kind of music combined with a fearless attitude to display in your dressing style which displays more or less which kind of music you’re into can spark many many interesting and deep conversations and create ever lasting friendships.
The power of music even affects bacteria in cheese giving it a different flavour depending on the music style it matured with. If music has an effect on ageing cheese flavour… can you imagine what possible effect could it have on you?
So, yes, never underestimate the power music has on you. In fact, as a photographer I know different music sparks different attitude in people when posing for their photos. So come and try it for yourself if you don’t believe me!!. But I got that expression below listening to a very specific kind of playlist.
And guess what? We become what we listen to the most. It becomes part of who we are. The wider the style of music you listen to the deeper and more interesting you are as a person.
Therefore whatever the moment you find yourself in your life you can find music to become who you need to be in order to overcome a particular negative situation in life. YET such music can be difficult and hard to find just on the moment when you need it the most and especially if the music that can help you overcome your issues is not the one you had in mind.
That’s why I’ve been creating plenty of playlists with empowering music of all types for different situations and with many varied music styles to please all ears and minds. Whenever a friend was sad or needed some encouragement I devoted myself to record music tapes or burn cds with music that would lift their spirits up or helped them deal with their specific tough situation. It’s as if I instinctively already knew about music healing powers and the goal was to make my friends feel as good as possible. I devoted my time to it instead of studying most time. Because guess what? I too felt like shit too but helping them feel better gave me a purpose in life and finding music that made me feel good also helped me feel better, more powerful or encouraged to change my reality.
Because whatever the situation you find yourself in right now you could quickly have access to music that can help you get out of that funk as well as help you actively pursue and achieve your goals and dreams.
If you want a fully customized playlist bearing in mind your music style and your current state of affairs to help you achieve any goals you may have in mind. Please contact me here and we’ll work on achieving yours!
You can listen to some wild playlists I have created for different purposes here or you could come for a Find Your Wild Side Retreat where we will create your own playlists in real life.
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