This Academic year (three years ago) I am definitely going to need more than a couple of miracles like the ones I performed previously.

The main goal is having a life I love living and a job I love doing while I become fully financially independent to the point I can even take my adorable children on well deserved holidays.

STEP ONE: FIND YOUR REASON WHY

You need a reason as to why you need to focus on creating some sort of miracle. Perhaps you can’t make ends meet unless it happens, perhaps if you don’t create it you’ll feel gutted, etc. So find your reason WHY you need it. And make sure it has good intention in it, like what you want has to benefit someone else or it has to be larger than your egotistical validation.

For demonstration purposes I would share the reason why I needed it.

Given that from last July (a couple of years ago) the father of my children thinks he has an official and legitimate excuse (letter written with the help of a solicitor) to say that he doesn’t have the means to help with child support as he should (when he could have applied for residency many years ago and found a reliable source of income) and that this year I have no government support at all, I have decided to push myself even further outside my comfort zone by choosing not to depend on the willingness of my parents to look after my children so I can work longer hours outdoors.

Crazy, I know!! But I honestly don’t want my ability to work and earn money to be heavily impacted one day by someone else’s temporary or permanent inability to look after my children.

2025 update: father of the children has only paid a small amount of pension in all this time (3 years) and owes quite a lot of it but since December he’s paying a bit over half of it. So I’m still struggling to have an income I feel 100% confident with its reliability. I also I have a lot of debt I need to pay back so I can feel like I really own my lifestyle sort to speak.

STEP TWO; CHALLENGE YOURSELF

And taking on a risk implies that it’s not going to be comfortable to be on that situation, whilst you do it you have really nothing to hold on to. You just jump and you have no idea of how or where you’re going to land… but that’s how you create those miracles.

A “realistic” person will never take such risks, that’s why they miss out on a lot of opportunities to live the life of their dreams. They simply think it’s not possible and so they don’t take the risk so they never find out. Mostly because they need to know exactly where they’re going to land in order to take the leap. And trust me, if challenging yourself and taking that leap of faith was that easy, everyone would do it.

But people are so afraid of the unknown or the uncertainty of not knowing how it’s gonna go that they never do anything risky or daring in their lives. So they experience harder than average lives full of boring chores because they can’t conceive life differently.

They need to live with that fake net of security that working for someone else does not being aware that any moment companies can go south and lose their employments because …. who is running those companies? unless they work for the government, they’re working for someone who is also taking big leaps of faith on a daily basis. In fact only a few live the life of their dreams and those are usually the ones that dared themselves to step outside their comfort zone and take a leap of faith.

And I know perhaps it’s not the best year to aim for that kind of goal right now, like I should play it safe, stick to the customers and reliable amount of monthly income I already have…. most people would say but “oh well” I’m a rebel at heart, it’s my life and I’m going to try it… because I like a challenge and I like to see how much better life can get if I keep taking leaps of faith!! Also… sometimes one needs big real discomfort in order to make changes necessary to grow and level up. And that’s the beauty of it. That’s exactly why it WORKS. Because you are putting all your faith in it or because you’re DETERMINED to make it work. PERIOD.

27.05.25 update: And glad I did and it did work because both my parents happened to undergo brain surgeries that year, imagine if I had relied on them 100% to be able to work.

STEP THREE: FIND THE WAY TO DO SO.

So how do you go on about it? It depends on your situation…

Imagine you’re unhappy at work, hate the long hours, feel unappreciated, and you’re just in it because you’re afraid you will have no other way to pay the bills… and you think it’s highly irresponsible to give up that job when you haven’t got any other employment offer or money to rely on…. how else will you be able to pay the bills?

Well, that’s precisely when you do it. You just resign. And somehow new, better and higher paid opportunities start laying ahead of you, perhaps it’s a new job or perhaps due to your situation you get more creatives on ways you can make a living. Perhaps out of desperation you start selling things that you no longer need and start making a living out of it and in the process you discover that living with less makes you happier, write a book about it and sell millions of copies. You never know until you try.

Most people think they know, that’s why most people don’t try and live miserable lives sticking to a job they dread or feeding a dead end relationship because moving out seems like a worse idea than staying in. Basically most people prefer known hells to unknown heavens.

I’ve done it before when a massive unfair situation came along at a job… I just said… “BYE BYE” right there and left. I’ve done it like two or three more times already. I was afraid that nobody would ever hire me again for a job because what if they called previous employer for references??? I may never find a job if seem unreliable.

Well, both times I stuck to what I thought was fair and how I thought I deserved to be treated led to much higher paid jobs and better managers and bosses. Had I listen to the fears I might have still been a slave to that kind of lifestyle.

But yes, it takes courage and the faith in that better bosses or better managers do exist and that you are not a tree so when you’re treated in ways that you feel are below your standards, you can simply move away from it.

That’s how I learnt on my early twenties that when a situation starts getting ridiculous or seems abusive or too difficult or too hard to put up with… you just get your stuff and go. Life doesn’t need to be so hard, most people make it hard by putting up with things that they shouldn’t put up with. When you respect yourself enough to want better, because you know you are a good person and you try your best to behave in a good respectful honest way… you won’t accept anything less out of life and then, when you have the courage to leave and search for better…. that’s when miracles happen.

In my case that wasn’t the situation at all because I already chose my customers and my pupils, and I loved workng with them all, but it was just a question of location that would make me lose some of them, but then I needed that extra time with my children at home, I needed that independence and higher chances of making a higher income eventually.

I don’t need to be filthy rich to be happy because I think true happiness comes from loving what you do for a living, choosing it and working on your own terms and with people who accept them and respect them. I don’t feel the need to buy luxury items, expensive jewels, etc. I don’t need to have the latest iphone to feel like I’m awesome, I don’t need to drive a super fancy car to feel good about myself. I grew up with no external validation… so I learnt to value the things that people can’t take away from me… my mindset, my character, my integrity, my honesty, my willingness to have fun, my unpredictability, my sense of humour. That’s what defines me.

So yes, I don’t do this job because it pays high … I do this job because I find it extremely fun and satisfying. Like if I have any problems in my personal life… I go to work and I come back uplifted and inspired. Because I love uplifting children, I love making their lives happier, if only for an hour… they can be fully themselves… I love to see them smile and I love to see how by them having fun and playing games absorb English the easy effortlessly way.

Working in an Academy could have been an easier and more reliable source of income. Agreed. But then I would have to accommodate my personal life to fit that work schedule. And as easy as it sounds because that’s what pretty much 95% of people actually do in life, let their job dictate their entire lives… I honestly love this of being my own boss, having fun at work, ensuring I get to know each pupil individually so I know what to talk about with them that will light their need to reply or get engaged in an activity, figure out which games they enjoy the most and then make their learning English experience a joy.

And in my case, having equivalent to a Master’s Degree in English Studies and having two native speakers at home … I would be stupid not to find customers that could see my vision that learning English with natives is easier and better for their kids. Sadly I just had to make it from my house so I could have less hours travelling and more hours teaching.

STEP FOUR: FEEL THE FEAR BUT DO IT ANYWAY.

So, ever from day one, that someone asked me if I could teach children I started telling my customers that I would teach with my children and it’s something they have to accept when hiring my services. That’s how I get the work and the customers I love to work with. Because I dare to be fearless in what I want to achieve and I say “no” to anything that’s not it. I also say that it has to be my methodology because the moment parents want me to monitor what they’re doing at school lessons become boring for my students and for myself.

Some may not like it, some may find it too expensive, some may find it inconvenient now that I’ve chosen to work mostly at home so my children can be here and join in the fun or avoid the games if we’ve played them with a different student that same day. Some customers I have lost by taking such “unsafe” risks as some parents couldn’t bring their children here due to several reasons.

However, At the end of the day we all work to pay bills and I have to make the most of my time to pay them entirely on my own so I have to make work actually WORK for me and my children and not the other way around.

And working at home means that if there are no lessons that day because a student can’t make it that day or something, I’m here just in case an Airbnb or Booking guests may book suddenly for the following day.

STEP FIVE: DON’T LISTEN TO THE NAYSAYERS

And yes… a lot of people would say…

But how on earth can you give up a reliable source of income just based on faith and belief that by working from home you’ll have more income when you have no physical evidence of it yet??

Well… that’s precisely how I do it. I take THE DAMN RISK and the LEAP OF FAITH.

I face fear and I do it anyway.

And with this challenge I would also love to prove to all those living in a happy victim mentality that OUR life IS ALWAYS going to be A REFLECTION of the choices WE make on a daily basis.

Sometimes to live the life you want you have to be willing to take risks and take big swings and some of those risks come with no guarantee that they will eventually pay off, but that’s what life and growth is all about. Why would you want to do the same job for twenty years in a row and call it a life?

Sometimes you fail, sometimes you fail even harder than you thought you could… and you keep failing and failing until you eventually hit rock bottom… and from there… there is only one way up.

I know it’s risky, I know it’s daring, especially this year when I’m kind of going cold turkey on child and government support and stepping way out of my comfort zone… kind of losing “safe” customers, but that’s why I love it even more. I can’t help it!!

STEP SIX: ENJOY THE JOURNEY

The more work I can get by me being my true genuine self and doing the things I really love doing, the better.

Perhaps I do this because I hate to get comfortable in one place for too long.

Perhaps I just like to stay “hungry” because that gives me motivation to do better.

Perhaps I just love a good challenge and taking risks because I know 10 out of 10 times such leaps of faith have always worked out and I have levelled up faster as a consequence of it.

All I know is that every single time I say no to what most people would say yes to (out of fear) I usually get something way better in life than I had ever dreamed of getting.

So here I am, creating my own destiny as I go because the best way to predict the future is to create it.

Am I afraid or worried that I may not make enough money to make ends meet?? Yes. Perhaps that’s what makes my life so exciting and unpredictable that makes it worth living and enjoyable.

There is always a tinge of fear that the risk may not pay off, like when you swing too high and you’re scared your hands will not hold you strong enough.

However, there is also the experience that reassures me that ever since I was 19 I’ve been taking wild risks and they have always paid off. ALWAYS.

And I know now that if I want a miracle and something in my life to change. I have to make it happen. I have to allow room for it to happen. I have to move in that direction for it to happen.

You just have to let go of the idea of having a “safety” net… and trust on your ability to grow wings on the way down so you can land softly on your next destination.

STEP SEVEN: REMEMBER THE OTHER OPTION.

Cowards who go for the easy option rarely get rewarded for it. They most likely end up being afraid of change and that way they end up accepting any kind of financial or emotional abuse out of trying to hold on to things that make them “comfortable numb” or “safe”.

Being afraid of the unknown and afraid of uncertainty is what keeps them stuck in situations they hate but they’re too afraid to change because they’ve become way too comfortable in them.

And that’s how people slowly but surely die and catch all sorts of physical or mental diseases. They quickly get depressed with regret and lack of motivation to challenge themselves to try something new because they have acquired constant realistic and negative thoughts playing out in their heads constantly reinforcing the idea that “it’s too late, it’s too risky, it’s too embarrasing” and that way living knowing they’re not living up to their maximum potential, they end up losing their will to live, that’s why their body stops working properly. They’re stuck in negative patterns.

After all I think it’s all a side effect of not living life on your terms.

STEP EIGHT: TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO FIND THE POSITIVE WITHIN THE NEGATIVE.

Worst come the worst if by October I haven’t filled all the gaps in my schedule then I will use that as the greatest wake-up call to truly push myself harder to make my other dream happen.

December 22nd 2024 update: I did fill most of my gaps and I was earning enough on my own to have my financial freedom. However one family let me down in December. No hard feelings, in the end we all have to go for what we think it’s best for us. And if what they want doesn’t align with our goals… we ought to just let them go.

I could have admitted defeat and let that make me feel depressed and resentful, instead I chose to focus on the fact that when something falls and goes it’s like a sign that I need to let go of that in order to create room for something better to come along.

That situation also pushed me to focus harder on making my dream holiday house available faster than I would had been able to otherwise.

But this other dream goal hasn’t come to fruition out of nowhere. I have been plotting, I have been mentally strategizing for this extra source of income for a loooong while now. I have not been wasting money frivolously just for decorating purposes to please myself. Obviously, I knew I would benefit from the much needed improvements the house needed to fully feel like my “home”. But that wasn’t really the end goal of my financial investment in its decoration.

I am kind of delusional but I’ve not been lazying around or wasting money insensitively (as my ex seems to think), even when my ADHD may make me seem chaotic and disorganized… I am always working on multiple goals at once, like my photographic studio or becoming living proof that my coaching skills actually work, even on seemingly chaotic people like me. And if they work on me… how could they not work for other people who are more organized and disciplined than I am?.

¿Do I just live out of lucky incidents? No. My mind is always at work 24/7 and everything I do… has plenty of layers of intention behind it.

At the end of the day, you create your own LUCK with the CHOICES you make and the RISKS you take on a daily basis.

And even if the risk doesn’t pay off immediately… we still need failure after failure to get on top of our game.

All the work I’ll be putting now will be sharpening my skills one way or another as a consequence of it, and sooner or later I’d be better off as a consequence of failing and learning time and time again, but above all, as a consequence of not giving up on what makes me truly happy and fulfilled I’ll be happy knowing that I’m always trying my best to get the things I want.

And, yes, I agree with most people that think I might be crazy, and perhaps I am.

And believe me, I understand your concerns that my priority above all should be paying my bills on schedule and that I shouldn’t care if it’s with boring lessons or not and that all I should care about in life is making enough money somehow, but to me, the way I make money, matters.

I need to feel comfortable doing it. I need to know I’m going to give my best shot at it and ensure my students/my guests/my photographic subjets enjoy it in order to feel proud of myself.

I know some people think I should be earning x, y, or z each month so that other people could see me more like a success to them.

But I look at the lives of people who are making that amount of money and how they live and how unhealthy they are and I think.

“Heck no, thanks” I just want to do things my easy, sleazy and breezy way.

I say I’d rather earn less, have more spare time with my children and enjoy my place and our drama illness free lives than making more just to show off an iphone or to make it look like I’m successful and let all those negative emotions fill me up with with negative emotion and illness.

And GUESS what? My children are not going to be this little and lovely forever, time flies by, and luckily enough, I stopped giving a damn about other people’s opinions and expectations of me a loooooong time ago so I get to spend so much more time with them that I don’t need two weeks of holidays and a trip to anywhere else other than my house to make up for the lack of quality time during the year.

I honestly believe that investing in being present with my children now is what can make them want to communicate and stay in touch with me forever and won’t fully alienate them for life. Sure, I want them to go and make their own lives. I want them to know they can always count on mum to take care of them and to be with them. And if earning less money per month working in something that makes me happy whilst keeping my children close by makes me more like a failure to some people, so be it. I particularly think there is no major success in life but to feel happy in your own body and surrounded by the people you love.

Because if you do… you don’t need to make big numbers or outstanding things to impress other people. You’re just confident and happy, that is something most people never get to feel or be. Most people try to get popular or famous to fill a void I don’t have. For me there is no major success in life than feeling your best and trying your best.

I am many things but above all I’m a mother who wants to raise positive and operational children in this world and for that I need to make my children feel seen, loved, valued, respected, happy, and bully-proof so that when they encounter unhappy hurt people needing to take their pain out on them they will be less likely to take other people’s opinions of them personally.

So say what you want, I’d much rather teach my children and my students that life can be easy-going, fun, and as enjoyable as you want it to be, rather than reinforcing that they need to compete to earn this much amount of money so they can impress someone else. When we all know that in order to get there most have to conform to take abuse as if abuse was an unavoidable part of life. Which may be when you first arrive in the world and you have no choice in which family you land in. But once you’ve grown, it’s really all on you and who you choose to surround yourself with. And after all, it’s going to be your belief system the one that saves you or breaks you.

My children and my pupils get to see this kind of magic miracles happening in our lessons every time I wish for an specific outcome before I roll the dice or pick up a chance card in Monopoly. They see me doing “magic”, my children see me doing “magic”, thinking something and happening straight away or showing up shortly afterwards. I’m just teaching them to be very aware of the thoughts they entertain because, as they get to see, they show up in our reality sooner rather than later. That way they’ll begin to realize that when they’re focused on their desired results they’re more likely to get them.

Most people will read this and continue to think I live in La la land or that what I say only happens in movies. Well, perhaps then my entire life is a movie or I create my movie as I go. Because, like it or not, I’m living proof that my life is full of apparently not possible things happening for me constantly.

And although to some people it may seem like I’m losing, I must warn you, that I’m actually winning. You just can’t see the ways in which I’m winning.

After all, my ex-husband always thought he was the smartest one of the two until I outsmarted him in so many unexpected ways that there is no wonder he felt played, betrayed and like he can’t trust me no more.

Trust me, you can’t play an overthinker. It’s not my fault he didn’t see as intelligent as I am, I mean, he saw me intelligent to some extent, but did he value it? no, he thought he could disrespect me, play me for a fool and get away with it. But oh well, definitely not my fault if he chose me mostly for appearance and underestimating my lethal brain.

So it’s time for me to grind and become the one and only provider for the children I once had with someone that likes to behave as if I’m the only one responsible for having them.

Let’s do this!! Let’s show those victim mentality people and all those irresponsible dads out there that we, wild mums, are perfectly capable of that and way more.

Now, all I need is more work during the weekends, some more lessons with grown-up students in the mornings, and a couple of summer or weekend immersions, but please, CHILDREN AND FEMALES ONLY!! Because each time I remind my ex how he could be earning as much as I do doing the same kind of job I do I run the risk of being labelled a whore. Just because I’m a female teacher and I apparently just attract work due to my good looks and that’s the reason why my male students hire me.

I’m kidding!! who cares what he says?? (although he does). I’d be extremely grateful to anyone who needs and hires any of my linguistic, photographic, hosting or coaching services.

I wonder what would happen to his narrow mind when he finds out that 99% of my income actually comes from single or married mums that happen to value my original, fun, engaging, and specific approach to teaching English for which no quals, no residency papers and no physical beauty have EVER been required for the job. As those are all his excuses for not finding a reliable high earning job in like six years. Meaning… if he truly wanted a job and a way to contribute to his children’s upbringing he could have done that already. As he could be attractive to those mums. Right?

And please, understand, I don’t want to talk badly about other people but I think if they wanted me to talk warmlier about them then they should have made more of an effort to help or to be a responsible parent to their children.

So… that’s it, that’s how I’m making miracles happen for me. Some hard work and belief.

I get laser-focus on my goals fuelled by circumstances I do not wish to entertain for longer. I ignore naysayers.

I test my limits.

I dare to step outside my comfort zone

and I jump into the unknown.

And then I grow wings that allow me to land safely and comfortably on the other side of fear where everything is way better than I originally thought it could be.

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The goal though is not to inspire people to feel sorry for me and the minor struggle or stress I have to go through at the moment. The goal is to make other people in my situation feel empowered to stop being victims of their circumstances and to start having faith and hope that there is always a way to get out of the rock bottom or negative situation they feel they’re stuck in. IF THEY WANT TO. But they have to CHOOSE IT as if their life depended on it. And it seriously does.

Apparently I can’t have any excuses not to be VICTORIOUS…

So I will end up being so… with or without his contribution!