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Please notice: This is something I wrote back in 2020 that is again very relatable in January 2024 and unsure for how long it will continue to be so… because I keep moving the goal post.

Well, as I’ve said in my previous blog entry this year (and all the ones that followed) I’m planning to have my business, my time management, and belongings 100% under control.

And that for me implies no love relationships at all.

The reason why I’m writing this it’s because this song reminded me of the fact that my high standards in love and relationships seem to shock a lot of people by being higher than those of the average person.

And I don’t care if I shock them…

I’m even more shocked to see how most people invite and welcome drama and confusing shit in their lives and are not even aware of it. Now… that’s shocking. No wonder they sooner or later end up feeling like they’re stuck in a rout, in a shitty job situation, in a toxic relationship or miserable circumstances.

Of course that idea of not giving anyone even a chance to potentially waste my time seems like a crazy law–ra thing to do. 

Probably because most people are so afraid to end up alone that the vast majority of them would accept whatever shitty behaviour and breadcrumbs come their way just to feel like they’re not alone. Use people they don’t really like just to not feel so lonely, etc. So yes, according to that kind of people who will take a lot of shit just because they’re afraid of being single I’m crazy AF.

Furthermore I feel more like myself when I’m single, the same way I’m more willing and inspired to thrive in my business endeavours when I’m not in a relationship. 

And of course that of not being in a relationship also involves not being available on dating apps and no chatting privately with strangers on Facebook, Instagram, or any social media at all.

NO?? Why not?

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. And most guys in general, but most particularly, most guys on internet just seem to be time suckers (learn here how to spot them) or epically fail at getting or keeping interested. So entertaining men just to figure out in which category they end up landing into is not something I want to waste any more time on. 

As it is my dating and relationship standards have always been perceived as higher than average, add this on top and then I get to the level of almost impossible to hang with, even just to go grab a coffee or make a new male friend. No, thanks. I’d rather focus on my financial freedom goals.

Why? I know most men don’t even reach the most basic of my standards. Let alone the high end ones. What’s wrong with men these days you may ask? A lot (you can read more about this topic here).

But even if they could meet my high standards…  my current dream love challenge makes it even harder for me to entertain anything less than what I truly want and how I truly want it to be.

You can also think of this challenge as the greatest excuse of all times to remain single AF for as long as I can because I need to stay focused on my goals and life purpose at the moment. Something I didn’t use to have in myy twenties that I have now.

I have two very powerful reasons called “children” that I have to ensure they grow happy, healthy and loved. And that fact alone reminds me daily that anything that doesn’t help me put food on the table daily is pretty much a distraction I much better do without.

I have worked extremely hard all these years (ever since 2018) to become financially independent as to have to become extremely careful about who do I do business with, just in case me taking male clients on board makes my future partner feel any kind of way (jealous, excluded, not respected, etc).

I’ve also come too far working on my own to risk investing time of my life getting to know further someone that may or may not end up displaying serious controlling or chauvinist behaviours once he thinks he might be able to take me for granted now that it’s difficult to move out….  Swish swish.

And due to that and many other reasons ….. I’m much better off working SOLO for whatever long I’ve got left to struggle financially to compensate for unexpected financial set backs that come my way to challenge me further.

Because I would prioritize customers any time; new ones, old ones, male ones, female ones, for me any person that hires my work or books my place is someone worth getting to know and investing time ensuring I provide the best of my services to. If them hiring me helps me pay my bills in an honest decent way I’ll be delighted to work with them in the future, even if they’re an ex from the past that treated me like royalty. Those I trust the most. 

I have refused large amounts of money because I knew what their intention was and I’d rather stick to my moral values and die poor than sell my dignity for money. 

As a consequence those experiences forced me recently to raise my standards even higher to ensure I achieve all my professional and personal growth goals first and without feeling like I’m breaking any hearts and/or being a bitch for not letting anyone get in the way of me achieving the life of my dreams the sooner the better.

So I’ve been choosing money ever love since 2018 because as Lisa sings “that’s the shit that will never bounce on ya”.

And when you focus on money like I do… you don’t let absolutely anyone take advantage of you. You need to see the money come in easy and in advance, or else, there is no deal.  

And unless the kind of love that money can’t buy shows up accidentally right outside my door (as it has happened before) I will continue to have money on my mind above all. 

And it’s precisely this attitude of going for what I truly want and avoiding what I don’t (sometimes without even giving them a chance) that makes me “pretty savage”.

Me focusing on my goals above all it’s something I’ve been doing ever since I was twenty. And this attitude, well, makes weak men resent you, envious women hate you and powerful interesting men crave you. 😉

What’s more, nevermind how hard we try to avoid men and going out, they get drawn to us like magnets.

Heck, this attitude makes men want to commit to marry you shortly after they get divorced or make men who claim they’ll never feel ready to love again do crazy stuff for you. And that’s some kind of power.

But being financially independent from men and whatever they choose to do it’s even more powerful, and we choose that one instead.

But don’t you dare confuse a wild woman with one that does all sorts of drugs and has sex with whoever that comes her way. No, a wild woman is the opposite of an easy woman. And if us wild women seem to make it “easy” for you to get, it really isn’t that “easy”, perhaps you were that good at getting it or she was taking advantage of you in ways you haven’t even perceived. Because I can guarantee you that most men don’t even get that close. So if you once did, don’t underestimate yourself. We don’t entertain just about anyone. And we feel kind of sorry for the fools who think that just because they’re allowed near us can have us or control us in any way, shape or form. He better run run run…

In fact, one of the things I like most about being currently single and focused on making money is that I’m free to offer these kind of Wild Retreat experiences for men and women alike without any kind of drama involved.

Want women like these to pay you attention? book a A Find Your Wild Side retreat.

I’ve seen a lot of men lost these days in terms of what they could offer these ladies because they think there is no room for them in their life since ” she can do it all by herself·.

You have to trust me, there is a lot, A LOT of room for a man in their lives, I swear, but we won’t waste time of our lives training boys how to become men. Unless we’re coaches and get paid to do so.

And no, believe it or not, getting the attention of wild queens is not about money. But of course, some level of effort, and financial investment is required on your side so she can ever consider you a remote possibility.

And it’s so easy to do so and yet most men don’t know how to do it.

Want to become that unbothered woman that gets men to buy them surprise gifts and treat them like a queen?? book yourself a A Find Your Wild Side retreat.

This would be a full weekend for women to perform a mental diet of the attiitude they need to have and a massive confidence boost to get their self esteem back on track in order to become these fearless emotionally and financially independent queens that get whatever they want in life.

But there is no need for you to be single, after all, becoming a fully independent woman only gives you the power to walk away easily if things go South should your partner not respect you or should your partner aim to dim your shine because he feels threatened by it.

More info about these topics during your stay here.